Growing up, the simplest of things scared me—saying ‘here’ when the teacher called role, telling the waitress my order at a restaurant, and even in middle/high school I would be asked on dates but reject them because of social anxiety. When I was 16, I failed my drivers test 3 times, having a nervous breakdown right before taking each test. There have even been circumstances in the last few years where I didn’t show up to interviews because of it; I literally have a lifetime of examples I could share.
One of the reasons I’m writing this on my blog is because it is something that I still deal with on a daily basis. However, over the years I have learned to gain a lot more confidence in myself—specifically through what I wear.
My older sister brought up a great point a few weeks ago—that when she dresses for success she feels confident: something I realized I truly live by. People used to ask me why I dressed up for school everyday, and the answer I gave is because I wanted to. But now, I realize I crave the confidence that it gives me. I know I have a good sense of style—it is the one attribute I don’t feel modest about labeling myself.
Another reason I decided to share this is I don’t think people necessarily understand that having a strong online presence doesn’t mean you are loud and all about sharing everything in real life. In reality, I’m a pretty quiet person (unless you know me 😉) who prefers staying in and watching a movie with a good group of friends over going out. I love shopping alone, I love grabbing coffee alone, I love going to the beach alone—and I don’t think there’s anything wrong or weird about it. It’s simply a personal preference.
Maybe someone is reading this who can totally relate, as for a while I had no idea there are in fact many people who are just like me. What are your thoughts on dressing for success/confidence? Leave a comment below 🙂 Thanks if you made it this far!